Composing your Wedding Vows
If you are feeling overwhelmed by the thought of putting pen to paper pledging meaningful words of your love, dreams and lifelong promises? Don’t stress you are in safe hands with our vow guide. While it might feel an unnerving experience, this moment will remain one of your most unforgettable memories of your wedding. When composing your vows remember that this day about the both of you, a perfect moment in time to be cherished.
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Traditional Vows or Personalised Vows
You may prefer traditional marriage vows, echoing the generations before you. If you select the traditional route, relaying those words confirms your love and your lifetime connection to each other. Couples that choose this path often incorporate some personal touches, modifying traditional vows to personalise them. Some houses of worship may request that you quote the traditional marriage vows or part of them. Couples that marry through a civil celebrant often say vows reflecting their love and growth together. Your soon to be spouse and guests will love hearing you express your devotion to life together, including any memorable moments. Whatever your style will be, you are assured it will be perfect. You will find the inspiration to step you in the right direction with our wedding vow guide.
Tips for Your Wedding Vows
Try not to leave your vow writing to the bottom of your wedding to do list. You need to become familiar with the words to give you confidence for the ceremony day. Find a quiet place where you can be inspired by your beautiful memories.
If you are having trouble starting writing your vows, you could think of some visuals. Picture yourself in the moment with your future spouse standing in front of you. Or you could browse down memory lane with some memorable photographs to inspire you, hint: have a box of tissues nearby. Reading over some traditional vows and other online vow inspiration, songs, and poems is another way. To help plan the structure an idea is to make some point forms of your journey, hopes, love, support and promises. Then leave it and revisit it on a separate day. See what stands out and underline these points creating the base of your vows. Remember that you can not include everything, and usually after three to four drafts it’s ready.
Celebrants are wedding experts and love to hear your vows, so if you need some tips they are ideal supporters. Your celebrant can make sure that both of the couples vows are cohesive, and notify you if there are any stand out differences. Don’t forget to tell the celebrant if you are keeping your vows as a surprise until the ceremony. Other people that could assist would be a close friend, however don’t divulge your draft to too many people otherwise you may get variations of opinions and become confused.
Once you have the constructed draft, try reading it out loud to ensure it consistently flows easily off the tongue. Also remember to allow pausing time to emphasize words that provide the full understanding of your vows to those in attendance. Hint when speaking in front of a crowd some people tend to speak faster, so practicing the phrasing is important.
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Print a copy of your vows and hand them to your officiant or celebrant so they can mind your main copy and place them in a well presented vow book for your big day.
Wedding Vow Inspiration
Describe to your partner how you have always loved them without reservations. A love that you always dreamed of. Your nearest and dearest will enjoy hearing about your journey, your adventure, your challenges and how you have become stronger as a couple after those experiences. It’s so touching when couples express real moments in their relationship, that builds towards the beginning of their future life as a married couple.
The vows should confirm to your partner that you are their rock and that you will be beside them through ‘good times and health’. ‘Through richer or poorer’.
Your guests will be touched when you acknowledge the support from your family and friends. Your family and friends are at your wedding to celebrate your big day and it’s touching when your guests feel that they are your loving supporters.
Your promises. Vows are a promise, a lifelong commitment, a promise that infuses everlasting devotion, loyalty and respect to love your spouse unconditionally and to grow together, forever. This promise is made in front of your nearest and dearest and will always be an unforgettable cherished moment of your wedding.
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